"Finding Light in the Darkness: A Journey of Healing and After the Loss of a Parent

In the journey of life, we are bound to experience moments of profound loss that shake the very core of our being. On Tuesday, August 22, my Dad made his transition from this earthly plane. I was devasted and happy at the same time. Yes, devastated to lose my first love. My daddy made me feel like a princess. He let me know that he loved me unconditionally. Every daughter should feel that kind of love.

He was an amazing man, who proved that with faith, honesty, humility, and action, all things are possible with Christ. In his last years, sickness plagued his body. Being the strong and independent man that he was, he was not happy about that at all. So, I am happy that he is free and with the LORD. I thank God for all the years, and all the love.

The departure of a parent, a pillar of strength and love, leaves an indelible void that can seem insurmountable. However, in the pain and grief, there lies a path of healing illuminated by love and light. Today, let's explore seven gentle steps that can guide you on this transformative journey of healing and moving forward with grace.

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions

"The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi

Grief is a complex and intricate emotion, and it's important to give yourself permission to feel its all of its facets. Give yourself permission to experience sadness, anger, guilt, remorse and even moments of acceptance and gratitude. Remember, it's in acknowledging these emotions that you pave the way for healing. Take time don't rush yourself. This is a big change.

2. Cultivate Self-Compassion

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha

In times of grief, it's easy to be hard on yourself. However, embracing self-compassion can be a powerful uplift for your wounded heart. Be patient and gentle with yourself, just as you would with a family member or dear friend in need. Treat yourself with kindness and allow yourself the space to heal at your own pace.

3. Reflect on Fond Memories

"What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us." - Helen Keller

Take time to celebrate the beautiful moments you shared with your parent. Reflect on the lessons they imparted, the laughter you shared, and the love that formed the foundation of your relationship. Let these cherished memories become a source of solace and inspiration as you navigate the healing process.

4. Embrace the Healing Power of Nature

"In every walk with nature, one receives far more than he seeks." - John Muir

Nature has an innate ability to soothe our souls and bring us back to a place of calm. Spend time in serene environments, whether it's a quiet park, a beach, or a forest. Go for a walk, and as I do talk to your loved ones. Connect with the earth, breathe in the fresh air, and allow the gentle rhythms of nature to mend your spirit.

5. Seek Support and Connection

"Grief shared is grief diminished." - Rabbi Earl Grollman

You don't have to navigate this journey alone. Reach out to your support system – friends, family, or even a professional counselor. Sharing your feelings with others can alleviate the weight of grief and remind you that you are not alone in your pain. Seek comfort in the connections that surround you. Let others comfort you.

6. Honor Your Parent's Legacy

"The soul is healed by being with children." - Fyodor Dostoevsky

Channel your love and emotions into honoring your parent's legacy. Consider engaging in acts of kindness, embarking on creative projects they would have appreciated, or contributing to causes that held significance for them. By keeping their spirit alive through these meaningful actions, you create an ongoing bond that transcends the physical realm.

7. Cultivate Inner Light

"The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it." - John 1:5

Amidst the darkness of grief, remember that you possess an inner light that is resilient and eternal. Nurture your inner essence through meditation, mindfulness, and spiritual practices. Connect with the divine presence within you, and allow it to guide you towards healing and growth.

As you navigate the intricate path of healing after the loss of a parent, remember that love and light are your steadfast companions. This journey is uniquely yours, and it is one that will ultimately lead you towards a place of renewed strength and spiritual growth.

In love and light, Pamela Sharpe, Spiritual Authenticity Coach, Author, and Blogger